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Seeing Myself

I used to imagine what I’d look like if I born male, if I were born with the expected physical features of biological maleness.  I’d give myself facial hair and mentally take the roundness out of my cheeks and let … Continue reading

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Lots of New Visitors: Hello!

There has been an influx of new readers lately, a lot of you connecting with my blog through the Slate article by Vanessa Vitiello Urquhart that I was quoted in. For the benefit of the new folks, here’s a little … Continue reading

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Passing Privilege, Spring Break and Bathrooms

I told a friend I was going to Florida for spring break with my family and he gave me a concerned look. “Be careful down there, especially in the bathrooms.” That gave me pause, because though I’d been reading about … Continue reading

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The Way She Sees Me

My new love, the one who seems most able to make love stay in a way that makes my heart sing and thump and shake it’s rump… she sees me.  This morning I sent her a picture of my morning … Continue reading

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Trans*date 01-10-2015: the Evolution of my Singing Voice

I recorded myself singing a couple of days ago, singing a song that I’ve been learning over the last month, Ball and Chain by Max Gomez.  After I posted that recording to YouTube, I listened to the recording I did … Continue reading

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Trans*date 01.07.2015: Noticeable

{left a voice message inviting Neighbor Femme to a pie date, we haven’t seen each other in a few months} {she texted back} Omg, your voice! {me} Did you have to do a double-take? {she} I didn’t believe it was … Continue reading

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Trans*date 12.10.2014: Growing…

I began taking testosterone on June 18th, today is my 176th day on T, almost 6 months. The small scruffy beard I’ve had since my 30s is filling out and my butch mustache is getting thicker and darker.  Along my … Continue reading

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Trans*date 12.5.2014: Voice Changes

Here are three different recordings of the same song, one in August, one in July and one in November. Before starting to take testosterone: [youtube http://youtu.be/yCJYp93TlWY]   About a month and a half on T: [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Evw3OOcXLwE]   November, 5 months on … Continue reading

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#NaNoWriMo2014, Day 13 Excerpt: Blades

[Excerpt from my novel in progress, Guys Like Us] I used to whittle a lot when I was a kid.  I wasn’t very artistic about it, so the result was usually a piece of wood with a sharp point and … Continue reading

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Who am I?

I’ve been thinking about this question a lot lately. Yeah, more than usual.  A year ago that question and most answers centered around who I was in relationship to transition. Or who I was in relationship to relationships.  Today it’s … Continue reading

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