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Celebrating 8 Years of Butchtastic

On October 6th, my blog turned 8.  Eight years of blogging about sex, gender, relationships, parenting, and whatever else comes bubbling to the surface.  Throughout those years and all those posts (1,148 total), I’ve posted some pretty vulnerable stuff, digging … Continue reading

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Fucking Awesome

You know who’s fucking awesome?  Red is. Red is a muse extraordinaire. Red is sexy as fuck. Red is solid and strong and Rawwrrrr! Red is a wicked sadist with a dollar store bag of nasty tricks. Red is a … Continue reading

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Learning to Say ‘No’

I have once again come to a place where I realize that I’m trying to do too much.  I’m over committing myself in excess of my resources of time and energy.  I’m fucking exhausted many days, mostly work days.  I’m … Continue reading

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For those of you visiting for the first time…

Some of you are visiting Butchtastic for the first time because you’ve read a guest post I have on NeutroisNonsense.  Some of you are friends of mine, some are friends of my wife, some are friends of both of us. … Continue reading

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Knowing Myself

I know myself best when life challenges me. I know myself deepest when love calls me to be generous and trusting, rather than gripping it tightly with both hands.

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Happy Anniversary, Red

Red and I spent the weekend together celebrating our anniversary (12/13/14).  One year ago today, we had our first date/sleepover/declaration of love.  Did we move pretty fast?  I suppose so, though the results completely validate our actions.  A year later, … Continue reading

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Why Sex with You is So Good

I’ve told you before how fantastic sex is with you. I’ve seen you blush, heard you stammer, seen your shy but pleased smile. “Why?” you ask. Is it true that you don’t know?  Please, love, let me tell you. Sex … Continue reading

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One More Sleep

My lover is moving to Olympia tomorrow.  She’ll be in a hotel room for two nights and then come to my house to care for our cats while my family and I are on vacation in Florida. One more sleep. … Continue reading

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Keep the Receipts

It’s easy to focus on the big events in the life of a relationship – the shows, the trips out of town, the parties and dates in fancy restaurants.  Those are the places you took selfies with her and checked … Continue reading

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I know what works for me

It has become amusing to me that trolls take the time to make comments on my blog that criticize my relationship style.  It’s also pathetic that people get such joy out of the pain and heartbreak of others.  That’s a … Continue reading

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