Tag Archives: polyamory

Celebrating 8 Years of Butchtastic

On October 6th, my blog turned 8.  Eight years of blogging about sex, gender, relationships, parenting, and whatever else comes bubbling to the surface.  Throughout those years and all those posts (1,148 total), I’ve posted some pretty vulnerable stuff, digging … Continue reading

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Life is Really Awesome

So much of the time I come to this entry screen to moan and groan about how hard life is but today I want to revel in the awesomeness I’m experiencing lately.  I want to roll around in it and … Continue reading

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Dating Ruby is So Good

Ruby, the voluptuous Portland hottie who I am fortunate to call ‘girlfriend’, recently visited Olympia to catch up with a BFF and for the occasion of our fourth date.  At some point I’m sure I’ll lose track of the actual … Continue reading

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Ask Kyle Anything… Answers (hopefully) to Jenna’s Questions

Jenna asks: A while ago invited your blog readers to ask you anything. So I’m asking. How do you define “in love” and do you think it is possible to maintain an “in love” state with the same person for … Continue reading

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No regrets…. well, maybe a couple

I try to live my life in such a way that I won’t be confronted by a long list of regrets in my last moments.  Nonetheless, I have plenty and can only hope to outnumber them with an even longer … Continue reading

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Sinclair’s series on Poly, my contribution

In case you haven’t tuned into the poly interview series Sinclair is running on Sugarbutch Chronicles, you really should.  Every post is wisdom gleaned from a different person’s own experience, so the posts are high on practical and realistic, low … Continue reading

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Handling Change in Relationships or Playing Well With Others, Poly-Style

I’ve started reading Playing Well With Others, by Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington, for myself and for review.  It’s about kinky play but the idea of ‘playing well with others’ certainly extends beyond kink. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how … Continue reading

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What do I want?

Something I thumbed into my iPhone notes app one day last week… What do I want? I want to enjoy my joy. I want to enjoy it in a full throated and ecstatic way. I want to celebrate my joy … Continue reading

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My Knight Fantasy

I posted a fantasy yesterday about a knight patiently waiting for a chance to serve his sovereign.  It is at once how I feel in my heart of hearts and also not truthful accounting of reality. The truth is, I’m … Continue reading

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Conversations with the Voice in my Head

voice:  this is hard me:  mmhmm… yeah, I won’t argue with that. voice:  I hate having to be an adult sometimes, can’t we go back to just grabbing what we want and not caring about anyone else? me: ‘go back’? … Continue reading

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