Tag Archives: polyamorous

For those of you visiting for the first time…

Some of you are visiting Butchtastic for the first time because you’ve read a guest post I have on NeutroisNonsense.  Some of you are friends of mine, some are friends of my wife, some are friends of both of us. … Continue reading

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Knowing Myself

I know myself best when life challenges me. I know myself deepest when love calls me to be generous and trusting, rather than gripping it tightly with both hands.

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Happy Anniversary, Red

Red and I spent the weekend together celebrating our anniversary (12/13/14).  One year ago today, we had our first date/sleepover/declaration of love.  Did we move pretty fast?  I suppose so, though the results completely validate our actions.  A year later, … Continue reading

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Dirty Compersion

I was sitting on her couch, petting the kitten, when she got home today.  She was bubbling with excitement, effervescent with it, gleaming and shimmering.  There are exciting people and exciting new things happening.  She starts telling me about them, … Continue reading

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Six Months

The thirteenth of each month, SWW and I add a notch in our relationship belt.  One month, two, three, four months… it’s now been six. This love affair started while I was still sifting through the ashes of heartbreak.  Not … Continue reading

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Lots of New Visitors: Hello!

There has been an influx of new readers lately, a lot of you connecting with my blog through the Slate article by Vanessa Vitiello Urquhart that I was quoted in. For the benefit of the new folks, here’s a little … Continue reading

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One More Sleep

My lover is moving to Olympia tomorrow.  She’ll be in a hotel room for two nights and then come to my house to care for our cats while my family and I are on vacation in Florida. One more sleep. … Continue reading

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Like a Clear Blue Sky

About a month ago, one of my poems was published in the Elephant Journal… I want my love to be like a clear blue sky with perfect conditions for flying I want my life to be an excellent launch pad … Continue reading

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I know what works for me

It has become amusing to me that trolls take the time to make comments on my blog that criticize my relationship style.  It’s also pathetic that people get such joy out of the pain and heartbreak of others.  That’s a … Continue reading

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What Does Poly Mean To Me

It seems that I’ve answered this question numerous times over the years but the answer keeps evolving.  So when Oregon Girl asked me this morning, I realized that I did have something slightly new to say about it. It used … Continue reading

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