Tag Archives: Nick

End of October Update

Tons going on lately… are you ready? Date Number 2 with Ruby!  We’ve been heating things up over the interwebs and she’s now promising to pounce on me this Saturday.  YES!  We’re going to have dinner and drinks at various … Continue reading

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Gender Odyssey is Nigh!!

Tonight, Nick and I will be driving north to Seattle to attend Gender Odyssey.  I am super looking forward to it, have worked hard on  my workshops and am a mixture of eager and terrified about presenting my sessions. I’m … Continue reading

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Where I am Today

I don’t know why I thought it would be easy to dive deep with therapy.  I guess my internal shielding mechanisms have been functioning so well that I had no idea how much crap I had to work on.  Turns … Continue reading

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Dis-Connecting

I’ve been feeling a new kind of disconnect or distance internally between myself and the current events that have been so triggering of late.  I’ve been looking at that disconnection to understand it and find out if it’s a good … Continue reading

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Letting Go, Stopping the Endless Loop of Loss

I’ve been struggling in the space between holding on and letting go. Not wanting to let go of what I used to have and also knowing I have to, that if I continue to hang on to this heavy grief … Continue reading

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Healing Conversation

My wife and I had a conversation the other night, a ground-breaking, amazing conversation.  I ended up staying up late, which I paid for the next day in mindless exhaustion, but I’m glad we did it.  It started with her … Continue reading

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Coming Up For Air

Though I have been going through a lot of hard stuff lately, it’s not all gloom and doom, so let’s lighten it up with some of the good things happening in my life: I’m starting therapy today and although some … Continue reading

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What Does Genderqueer Mean to You?

Do you identify as genderqueer?  What does that word mean to you?  Did you take it on for personal reasons, or is it a political statement against binary gender? I had the pleasure of drinking beers with a couple of … Continue reading

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Some Wonderful Rare Moments of Non-Dysphoria

My status said: whatever the opposite of dysphoria is, I’m feeling it today.. wow! this feels good Later that day, my friend Nick asked “What does that feel like?” We both agreed that we go through life with an underlying … Continue reading

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