Tag Archives: identity

Sleep Issues

For about eight years now, I’ve been aware that I had an issue with sleeping.  I remember my girlfriend waking me up and being very alarmed. “You stopped breathing!” Oh, that’s what that is, I thought to myself.  I’d been … Continue reading

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Blog Tour for Show Yourself to Me

If you’d like to read what others have written about Xan West’s fantastic collection of queer kinky erotica, here is the entire blog tour itinerary: The stops on the blog tour: October 1: Xan West https://xanwest.wordpress.com/ October 2: Book Birthday! Go … Continue reading

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Now that I have Facial Hair, It’s Easier to Be Feminine

You might be looking at this post with a quizzical eye, maybe an eyebrow lift.  Or maybe you’ve been through all this and you’re nodding in recognition. It’s not something that happened right away, but as my appearance and voice … Continue reading

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the whole of me

The me that you see is not the whole of me I’m looking out through these eyes longing for a wider view longing to be viewed to be seen for all you are good, bad, misguided, enlightened, lifted and low … Continue reading

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Who am I?

I’ve been thinking about this question a lot lately. Yeah, more than usual.  A year ago that question and most answers centered around who I was in relationship to transition. Or who I was in relationship to relationships.  Today it’s … Continue reading

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Trans*date: 2014.07.13 … About Boobs

I’ve been searching for a while for a way to describe how I feel about my breasts.  For a while now, I’ve felt somewhat apologetic about my lack of hatred for them.  I’ve never hated them in the way that … Continue reading

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Trans*date 07.01.2014: Coming Out Letter

I sent a letter to family and selected friends of the family, telling them about my transition and upcoming name change.  This is the beginning of me being able to be a lot more open about my identity and what … Continue reading

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Trans*date 06.23.2014: Day to Day

Most of transition is not spent accomplishing big things that you can celebrate and note in your journal. Most of transition is spent just doing the common, normal day-to-day tasks of life. And this is where I find myself now … Continue reading

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Trans*date 06.12.2014: Mine and Mine Alone

If I had a broken leg or a tumor, I’d go to a specialist and get a diagnosis and a course of action for treatment.  I wouldn’t have to research the injury or ailment and come up with a solution, … Continue reading

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Trans*date 2014.06.03: Talking to Parents

Yesterday, I called my mom to talk to her about the next steps I’ll be taking in transition.  I thought for a few rings that it would go to voicemail and I was relieved.  Then she picked up.  She sounded … Continue reading

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