Tag Archives: gender non-conforming

Blog Tour for Show Yourself to Me

If you’d like to read what others have written about Xan West’s fantastic collection of queer kinky erotica, here is the entire blog tour itinerary: The stops on the blog tour: October 1: Xan West https://xanwest.wordpress.com/ October 2: Book Birthday! Go … Continue reading

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Book Review: Show Yourself To Me by Xan West

I’m not even going to pretend to be unbiased — I love Xan West‘s writing.  I have been a fan since discovering Xan’s work ages ago.  My fandom is mainly based on Xan’s ability to write hot, nuanced sex scenes … Continue reading

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Book Review: Lost Boi by Sassafras Lowrey

I remember reading social media updates from Sassafras Lowrey while ze was writing this novel, updates that spoke in excited tones about the characters and the way the story was unfolding. Now I know why. Lost Boi is a retelling … Continue reading

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Lots of New Visitors: Hello!

There has been an influx of new readers lately, a lot of you connecting with my blog through the Slate article by Vanessa Vitiello Urquhart that I was quoted in. For the benefit of the new folks, here’s a little … Continue reading

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Passing Privilege, Spring Break and Bathrooms

I told a friend I was going to Florida for spring break with my family and he gave me a concerned look. “Be careful down there, especially in the bathrooms.” That gave me pause, because though I’d been reading about … Continue reading

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Date Night with My Boyfriend

We were in a saltwater town on the peninsula, holding hands and kissing every chance we got.  Sitting in one of the many pizza joints with a lot of other Seahawks fans watching the game, I looked across the table … Continue reading

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Decisions, Decisions

Have you ever done that thing where you believe you’ve been considering and processing and evaluating something for a long time and then you realize that, no, you really weren’t? That’s where I am right now.  And I know the … Continue reading

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Coming Out to The World… on the Topic of ‘Junk’ and Medical Transition

I’m working on an FAQ, one that I want to make available to co-workers, friends, family, etc. and I asked folks on Facebook to forward me questions that they thought I should address in my FAQ… I’ve gotten some great … Continue reading

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Coming Out At Work: Hearing My Pronouns in Use

Yesterday, I overheard a co-worker talking to a candidate for one of our proposals.  The co-worker, Bob, was getting some additional information for me.  Bob consistently and without hesitation used he/him/his when referring to me in that conversation. I wanted … Continue reading

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Coming Out At Work

I came out at work today, by way of an all-staff email.  This was a step I wasn’t going to take for another couple of weeks, but life takes funny turns sometimes.  After coming out to my parents (I’ll post … Continue reading

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