Category Archives: relationships

Celebrating 8 Years of Butchtastic

On October 6th, my blog turned 8.  Eight years of blogging about sex, gender, relationships, parenting, and whatever else comes bubbling to the surface.  Throughout those years and all those posts (1,148 total), I’ve posted some pretty vulnerable stuff, digging … Continue reading

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Happy Anniversary, Red

Red and I spent the weekend together celebrating our anniversary (12/13/14).  One year ago today, we had our first date/sleepover/declaration of love.  Did we move pretty fast?  I suppose so, though the results completely validate our actions.  A year later, … Continue reading

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Black Hankie: You Earned It

My Dearest Lover, You are amazing, do you know that? I am still in awe of the nasty beating you took from NeighborFemme and me at BSQ earlier this month. And you thought you might not perform well enough to … Continue reading

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Six Months

The thirteenth of each month, SWW and I add a notch in our relationship belt.  One month, two, three, four months… it’s now been six. This love affair started while I was still sifting through the ashes of heartbreak.  Not … Continue reading

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Why Sex with You is So Good

I’ve told you before how fantastic sex is with you. I’ve seen you blush, heard you stammer, seen your shy but pleased smile. “Why?” you ask. Is it true that you don’t know?  Please, love, let me tell you. Sex … Continue reading

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One More Sleep

My lover is moving to Olympia tomorrow.  She’ll be in a hotel room for two nights and then come to my house to care for our cats while my family and I are on vacation in Florida. One more sleep. … Continue reading

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About My Lover…

I need to tell you about my lover.  There’s a lot to say, multiple blog posts worth for sure.  I’ll start with this:  I have never loved someone in such a clear-headed way before. I’ve talked about being addicted to … Continue reading

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The Way She Sees Me

My new love, the one who seems most able to make love stay in a way that makes my heart sing and thump and shake it’s rump… she sees me.  This morning I sent her a picture of my morning … Continue reading

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Returning to the Dungeon

Tomorrow night I will be attending a public play party for the first time in two years.  The last time I went to the Seattle Center for Sex Positive Culture (nee The Wetspot), I was triple topped in a powerful … Continue reading

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Keep the Receipts

It’s easy to focus on the big events in the life of a relationship – the shows, the trips out of town, the parties and dates in fancy restaurants.  Those are the places you took selfies with her and checked … Continue reading

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