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Category Archives: gender
Unsure
Another Buddy monologue, a bit from the novel-in-progress: I had become unsure of my place in the world.  Was I a woman who looked like a man and felt like one sometimes?  Was I a man trapped in a woman’s … Continue reading
Posted in finding me, gender, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, queer life, writing
Tagged Buddy, gender identity, identity, novel in progress
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The Difficulty of Communicating Me
A conversation with my wife this morning, one in a series on gender identity and the binary, pointed a bright spotlight on an area of my personal identity journey my wife has serious issues with: Â my male identity. OK, it’s … Continue reading
TDOR: Transgender Day of Remembrance
Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance, and I invite everyone to take a moment to remember and honor the trans* and gender non-conforming people who have died due to violence and intolerance. Â I include gender non-conforming because transphobia isn’t limited … Continue reading
Posted in butch/trans/genderqueer, community, gender, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, non-conforming gender presentation, transgender
Tagged gender non-conforming, genderqueer, Roxy, TDOR, transgender, Transgender Day of Remembrance
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Suburban Butch Dad Report: Travelling While Trans, Family Edition
It’s the weekend before the Thanksgiving holiday (US edition) and my family will be travelling next week. Â It will mark the first time I’ve flown since February, which is weird considering how friendly the skies and I have become during … Continue reading
On Preferred Pronouns, My Answer has Changed
Our custom at Pizza Klatch is to start our lunch time support with check ins. Â Checking in involves saying your first name, your preferred gender pronouns and sharing a high and a low from the previous week. When it was … Continue reading
More on Roving Pack
As often happens after I hit the ‘publish’ button, today I had some additional thoughts about Roving Pack, the novel by Sassafras Lowrey, that I recently reviewed. In the review, I said that I was inspired and called to write … Continue reading
Posted in about writing, butch/trans/genderqueer, community, exploring gender, gender, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, non-conforming gender presentation, transgender
Tagged gender, gender identity, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, writing
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Some Wonderful Rare Moments of Non-Dysphoria
My status said: whatever the opposite of dysphoria is, I’m feeling it today.. wow! this feels good Later that day, my friend Nick asked “What does that feel like?” We both agreed that we go through life with an underlying … Continue reading
Posted in gender, gender non-conforming, genderqueer
Tagged gender dysporia, Nick
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Great post on Gender Neutral Pronouns, From Ask Matt
Matt Kaily (Tranifesto) has a feature on his blog called ‘Ask Matt’. Â He is a great educator, and his answers are always thoughtful and well written. Â The one I’m referring to answers a question by a sophomore in high school … Continue reading
Posted in community, gender, gender non-conforming, genderqueer
Tagged gender, identity, preferred pronouns
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Something We Don’t Talk About Much: Scuzzy Cock
There’s something I don’t see talked about much, probably because other people have better sense than I do. Â The topic of discussion is grungy old cocks. Sometimes the cure to grungy cock syndrome is to drop it in a pot … Continue reading
Posted in butch/trans/genderqueer, butches, gender, gender non-conforming, non-conforming gender presentation, transgender
Tagged genderqueer, packing, packing cock, transgender
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Genderqueer week(s) in review
A collection of gender related happenings in recent days and weeks. gender at work At the office, along with making magic happen with 1s and 0s, I’ve been involved in an agonizing process called: Â get the next contract. Â There have … Continue reading
Posted in anti-oppression work, bdsm, butch/trans/genderqueer, community, exploring gender, gender, gender non-conforming, my selves, parenting, slices of life, transgender
Tagged educating about gender, gender non-conforming, Gender Odyssey, genderqueer, Spawn1, Spawn2, transgender
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