Category Archives: gender

Blog Tour for Show Yourself to Me

If you’d like to read what others have written about Xan West’s fantastic collection of queer kinky erotica, here is the entire blog tour itinerary: The stops on the blog tour: October 1: Xan West https://xanwest.wordpress.com/ October 2: Book Birthday! Go … Continue reading

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Interview with Xan West, author of Show Yourself To Me

Xan West is one of my favorite authors, a master at writing savory, sexy queer erotica that pulls the reader in until you forget you’re not part of the scene.  It’s exciting to see the buzz rising for Xan’s anthology, … Continue reading

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Book Review: Show Yourself To Me by Xan West

I’m not even going to pretend to be unbiased — I love Xan West‘s writing.  I have been a fan since discovering Xan’s work ages ago.  My fandom is mainly based on Xan’s ability to write hot, nuanced sex scenes … Continue reading

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Trans*date 06.12.2014: Mine and Mine Alone

If I had a broken leg or a tumor, I’d go to a specialist and get a diagnosis and a course of action for treatment.  I wouldn’t have to research the injury or ailment and come up with a solution, … Continue reading

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It Hits Me At Odd Moments

I’ve been thinking a lot about transition, my transition, the one I’m designing specifically for myself.  I’ve been thinking about the changes that will result from taking T, looking through the list as though memorizing it will magically give me … Continue reading

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Decisions, Decisions

Have you ever done that thing where you believe you’ve been considering and processing and evaluating something for a long time and then you realize that, no, you really weren’t? That’s where I am right now.  And I know the … Continue reading

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Coming Out to The World… on the Topic of ‘Junk’ and Medical Transition

I’m working on an FAQ, one that I want to make available to co-workers, friends, family, etc. and I asked folks on Facebook to forward me questions that they thought I should address in my FAQ… I’ve gotten some great … Continue reading

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Coming Out At Work: Hearing My Pronouns in Use

Yesterday, I overheard a co-worker talking to a candidate for one of our proposals.  The co-worker, Bob, was getting some additional information for me.  Bob consistently and without hesitation used he/him/his when referring to me in that conversation. I wanted … Continue reading

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Coming Out At Work

I came out at work today, by way of an all-staff email.  This was a step I wasn’t going to take for another couple of weeks, but life takes funny turns sometimes.  After coming out to my parents (I’ll post … Continue reading

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“What is the worst that could happen?”

I’ve realized something recently, something about the way I handle my true truths and the way I reveal or hide them from others.  I’ve had a hard time opening up to some people in my life about what I really … Continue reading

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