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Category Archives: finding me
Now that I have Facial Hair, It’s Easier to Be Feminine
You might be looking at this post with a quizzical eye, maybe an eyebrow lift. Â Or maybe you’ve been through all this and you’re nodding in recognition. It’s not something that happened right away, but as my appearance and voice … Continue reading
Seeing Myself
I used to imagine what I’d look like if I born male, if I were born with the expected physical features of biological maleness. Â I’d give myself facial hair and mentally take the roundness out of my cheeks and let … Continue reading
the whole of me
The me that you see is not the whole of me I’m looking out through these eyes longing for a wider view longing to be viewed to be seen for all you are good, bad, misguided, enlightened, lifted and low … Continue reading
What Does Poly Mean To Me
It seems that I’ve answered this question numerous times over the years but the answer keeps evolving. Â So when Oregon Girl asked me this morning, I realized that I did have something slightly new to say about it. It used … Continue reading
Posted in finding me, relationships
Tagged Oregon Girl, poly is hard, polyamorous, relationships
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Commitments
During my yoga practice this morning, we were thinking and meditating on how we spend our time and what ‘habits of frequency’ we engaged in as a part of our self-care and as a part of our involvement with those … Continue reading
Posted in finding me, meditation, parenting, relationships
Tagged community, family, friends, Girlfriend, Hippy Goddess, Mrs. Kyle, Oregon Girl, parenting, Spawn1, Spawn2
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Who am I?
I’ve been thinking about this question a lot lately. Yeah, more than usual. Â A year ago that question and most answers centered around who I was in relationship to transition. Or who I was in relationship to relationships. Â Today it’s … Continue reading
Posted in finding me, my selves, This Genderqueer LIfe
Tagged genderqueer, genderqueer transition, identity, transgender
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Trans*date 06.12.2014: Mine and Mine Alone
If I had a broken leg or a tumor, I’d go to a specialist and get a diagnosis and a course of action for treatment. Â I wouldn’t have to research the injury or ailment and come up with a solution, … Continue reading
It Hits Me At Odd Moments
I’ve been thinking a lot about transition, my transition, the one I’m designing specifically for myself. Â I’ve been thinking about the changes that will result from taking T, looking through the list as though memorizing it will magically give me … Continue reading
Posted in Coming Out Genderqueer, finding me, gender, genderqueer, transgender
Tagged gender, genderqueer, genderqueer transition, introspection, transgender
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What Are Words For?
I posted on one of my Facebook pages about identity labels the other day, specifically the ones I’m using. Â I explained that I’m not going to use bi-gender any more because the definitions I’m seeing don’t really fit the way … Continue reading
Posted in butch/trans/genderqueer, exploring gender, finding me, This Genderqueer LIfe
Tagged activism, gender, genderqueer, identity
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Imagining Myself Whole
This may end up being a bit rambly, so bear with me if you can. I had a therapy session recently. Â We talked about my transition work which is all about coming out in my professional life these days. Â We … Continue reading