Category Archives: exploring gender

Gender Odyssey 2013, Day 2

[I started writing this at the end of Day 2, and only just finished it…] Today was a busy day and I’m tired to the bone, but I want to catch you all up before I get a beer and … Continue reading

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More on My New Trans Narrative

A follow on thought relate to my last post…. One of the most familiar trans narratives is that of the person who is born into the wrong body, or feels trapped in the wrong body.  That narrative has been repeated … Continue reading

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#GOconf2013, My Personal Gender Odyssey

One difference for me between this year’s Gender Odyssey conference and last year’s was that I spent a lot less time this year telling the story of my trans narrative.  Part of that is due to the workshops I attended, … Continue reading

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Gender Odyssey Blog

Did I every tell y’all that I wrote a blog post for the Gender Odyssey blog?  Well, there’s the link in case I didn’t.  There are several great posts there to give you a feeling for some of what goes … Continue reading

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Gender Odyssey is Nigh!!

Tonight, Nick and I will be driving north to Seattle to attend Gender Odyssey.  I am super looking forward to it, have worked hard on  my workshops and am a mixture of eager and terrified about presenting my sessions. I’m … Continue reading

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Reviewing Rye by Sam Rosenthal

Rye: …. A money-shot across the bow of outdated sensibilities, Rye takes a sexual somersault through the gradations of gender in a penetrating portrayal of twenty-first century intimacy. I’ve been hungry for stories about genderqueer characters, because I am one … Continue reading

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Healing Conversation

My wife and I had a conversation the other night, a ground-breaking, amazing conversation.  I ended up staying up late, which I paid for the next day in mindless exhaustion, but I’m glad we did it.  It started with her … Continue reading

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On Butch Identity, Masculinity and Being Intentional

mas·cu·lin·i·ty (msky-ln-t)  n. pl. mas·cu·lin·i·ties 1. The quality or condition of being masculine. 2. Something traditionally considered to be characteristic of a male. mas·cu·line (msky-ln)  adj. 1. Of or relating to men or boys; male. 2. Suggestive or characteristic of … Continue reading

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The Difficulty of Communicating Me

A conversation with my wife this morning, one in a series on gender identity and the binary, pointed a bright spotlight on an area of my personal identity journey my wife has serious issues with:  my male identity. OK, it’s … Continue reading

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Looks

I was checking out at a local grocery store with my bag of salt & pepper chips when I got some very interesting looks from the cashier.  Twenty something and friendly, she looked at me for a long moment when … Continue reading

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