Category Archives: exploring gender

Smart, Vulnerable Posts on my Partner’s Blog

Red has been doing some deep thinking lately about gender and sex. You should check it out: Never Say Never: More Gender Stuff #realtalk #IPEEWHENISQUIRT This latter one is particularly vulnerable… and this is what I think:  If you temporarily … Continue reading

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Book Review: Show Yourself To Me by Xan West

I’m not even going to pretend to be unbiased — I love Xan West‘s writing.  I have been a fan since discovering Xan’s work ages ago.  My fandom is mainly based on Xan’s ability to write hot, nuanced sex scenes … Continue reading

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Now that I have Facial Hair, It’s Easier to Be Feminine

You might be looking at this post with a quizzical eye, maybe an eyebrow lift.  Or maybe you’ve been through all this and you’re nodding in recognition. It’s not something that happened right away, but as my appearance and voice … Continue reading

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Trans*date 2014.5.17, Moving to a New Place

As is my habit, I try to translate my insides to the outside world through words.  Analogies play a big part in that translation.  I was having a conversation with a friend, a transguy who is younger than I by … Continue reading

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What Are Words For?

I posted on one of my Facebook pages about identity labels the other day, specifically the ones I’m using.  I explained that I’m not going to use bi-gender any more because the definitions I’m seeing don’t really fit the way … Continue reading

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Decisions, Decisions

Have you ever done that thing where you believe you’ve been considering and processing and evaluating something for a long time and then you realize that, no, you really weren’t? That’s where I am right now.  And I know the … Continue reading

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Two Poems, Unfinished

untitled, unfinished sometimes it hits me just like that like breath caught in my throat like one last step I don’t see so it catches me by surprise brings me to my knees those hours, those moments each of them … Continue reading

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“What is the worst that could happen?”

I’ve realized something recently, something about the way I handle my true truths and the way I reveal or hide them from others.  I’ve had a hard time opening up to some people in my life about what I really … Continue reading

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Reviewing The Unintentional Time Traveler by Everett Maroon

The Unintentional Time Traveler by Everett Maroon is a soon to be released young adult novel introducing Jack, a self-deprecating and entertainingly sarcastic fifteen year old boy with a knack for automotive repair and self-acceptance beyond his age.  He suffers … Continue reading

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Gender Odyssey 2013, Day 2

[I started writing this at the end of Day 2, and only just finished it...] Today was a busy day and I’m tired to the bone, but I want to catch you all up before I get a beer and … Continue reading

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