Category Archives: butch/trans/genderqueer

Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity

This book, more than 5 years in the making, is finally getting out into the world. Around 30 contributors share their personal experiences and journeys in discovering what gender means to them, in defying gender norms and finding a place … Continue reading

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Blog Tour for Show Yourself to Me

If you’d like to read what others have written about Xan West’s fantastic collection of queer kinky erotica, here is the entire blog tour itinerary: The stops on the blog tour: October 1: Xan West https://xanwest.wordpress.com/ October 2: Book Birthday! Go … Continue reading

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Interview with Xan West, author of Show Yourself To Me

Xan West is one of my favorite authors, a master at writing savory, sexy queer erotica that pulls the reader in until you forget you’re not part of the scene.  It’s exciting to see the buzz rising for Xan’s anthology, … Continue reading

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Book Review: Show Yourself To Me by Xan West

I’m not even going to pretend to be unbiased — I love Xan West‘s writing.  I have been a fan since discovering Xan’s work ages ago.  My fandom is mainly based on Xan’s ability to write hot, nuanced sex scenes … Continue reading

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Seeing Myself

I used to imagine what I’d look like if I born male, if I were born with the expected physical features of biological maleness.  I’d give myself facial hair and mentally take the roundness out of my cheeks and let … Continue reading

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#NaNoWriMo2014: Confidence in Chunky Boots

Excerpt from my novel in progress, Guys Like Us A couple of mornings later, I pulled on the boots I’d gotten at the thrift store, along with a button down shirt that my brother had left behind and the Carhart … Continue reading

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What Are Words For?

I posted on one of my Facebook pages about identity labels the other day, specifically the ones I’m using.  I explained that I’m not going to use bi-gender any more because the definitions I’m seeing don’t really fit the way … Continue reading

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Imagining Myself Whole

This may end up being a bit rambly, so bear with me if you can. I had a therapy session recently.  We talked about my transition work which is all about coming out in my professional life these days.  We … Continue reading

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Coming Out At Work

I came out at work today, by way of an all-staff email.  This was a step I wasn’t going to take for another couple of weeks, but life takes funny turns sometimes.  After coming out to my parents (I’ll post … Continue reading

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“What is the worst that could happen?”

I’ve realized something recently, something about the way I handle my true truths and the way I reveal or hide them from others.  I’ve had a hard time opening up to some people in my life about what I really … Continue reading

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