Category Archives: bdsm

Micro Fantasy: What’s the Femme Cooking Up Now?

The Femme picks up her big wooden spoon and stirs the bubbling, steaming contents of her soup kettle.  Taking an experimental sniff, she knows the base of her special stew is ready.  Now for the interesting ingredients, the magical stuff … Continue reading

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Microfantasy: Waiting Our Turn

I’m lying in bed, alone, unable to sleep.  Hand between my legs, images and scenes flit through my mind.  I wait for something to settle in my minds eye, something I can work with.   My boy sits at my … Continue reading

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Before Negotiation… Kinkster, Know Thyself

The chapter on Negotiation in Playing Well with Others, really just the first few pages, has me thinking a lot about what it is I want out of my play with others.   This is mostly about people I haven’t … Continue reading

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Don’t Miss This: Mollena and Lee in Seattle

Mollena Williams, yes THE Mollena, and Lee Harrington are going to be at the SCSPC on Thursday night from 6-9pm, signing their amazingly good book, Playing Well with Others as well as leading a workshop… for only $25 bucks and … Continue reading

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Change Never Stays The Same

Those of you following from home know that a lot of change and turmoil has rolled through my life this year.  Changes to my relationship with Roxy have been really hard on both of us but we remain committed to … Continue reading

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Great deal on Playing Well With Others!

Playing Well With Others, the outstanding book on kink, BDSM and Leather communities by Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington, is available for Kindle for only $1.99… this is a ridiculously good deal and if you can make use of that … Continue reading

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BSQ: a fun night of community, hot scenes, hot dogs and ass-kickings

A couple of Saturday’s ago, Neighbor Femme and I drove up to Seattle to spend some time together and go to the Blood, Sweat and Queers play party at the Seattle Center for Sex Positive Culture (formerly the Wet Spot). … Continue reading

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Catharsis, or Being Reduced to a Puddle of Tears During a Scene

ca·thar·sis/kəˈTHärsis/ Noun:  1. the process of releasing, and thereby providing relief from, strong or repressed emotions. Neighbor Femme and I had our first public play scene last weekend, at the Crowbar play party in Seattle.  We’d been talking and negotiating … Continue reading

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Genderqueer week(s) in review

A collection of gender related happenings in recent days and weeks. gender at work At the office, along with making magic happen with 1s and 0s, I’ve been involved in an agonizing process called:  get the next contract.  There have … Continue reading

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It came from teh Internetz ….

A tour of blog posts, articles and other internet offerings that have caught my attention recently. First some news and happenings of interest to trans people and their allies: Transgender 101:  15 things to know:  quick and catchy, power point … Continue reading

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