Archive for November, 2009
Microfantasy Monday, week 56 : Etiquette

Thanks as always to Ang, the Sweltering Celt, bringer of weekly Microfantasy Monday goodness.  The theme this week is Etiquette.

I was leaning against the lockers in the Senior Hall waiting for her to meet me.   My best buddy was waiting with me, also watching the far end of the hallway eagerly.  We both straightened up when they came into view, heads bowed toward each other, intent on the gossip they were sharing.  Were they talking about us?

They hadn’t looked up yet, but they knew we were watching them, it was the same everyday.  We leaned back against the lockers again, slouching in carefully arranged nonchalance intended to indicate our indifference to the slowness of their approach.  When they were finally standing in front of us, any thought of acting unimpressed vanished from my mind.  I beamed at my girlfriend and she smiled coyly up at me, tilting her head to look at me, exposing her neck.  She knew exactly how to get to me.  She stepped closer, almost too close considering how homophobic most of our schoolmates were.  She stood on her tiptoes, facing me, leaning her hip into mine with just enough pressure to inflame my groin and whispered into my ear “I want you.”

As if I didn’t know that, I thought and glanced sideways at my buddy.  She caught my glance and raised her eyebrows.

“Yes, we should be going, hmmm?  I’m sure you ladies would like some lunch.”

I said this in my best leading man voice and the girls giggled.  My buddy and her girlfriend led the way, toward the end of the hall leading to the parking lot.  I looked down at my girlfriend, smiled and put my hand lightly on the small of her back.  She shuddered lightly and looked up at me with heavy lidded eyes.  Damn, she was always ready to go and my clit throbbed in response to her unspoken words.

We made our way down the hall, my fingertips lightly stroking her lower spine.  As we reached the doorway, my buddy stepped ahead and held the door open.  As I walked through, I said, “Thank you so much, sir, you are too kind.”

“Au contraire, mi amigo, the niceties of Butch Etiquette must be observed at all times.”  Butch Etiquette was the term we’d adopted to cover behaviors ranging from holding the door and buying lunch, to teasing and thoroughly satisfying our girlfriends.

“Oh, I quite agree” and chuckled.  My girlfriend whipped her head around and wielded an arched eyebrow at me.

“Oh, yesss.. the two of you are certainly gentlemen at all times”  She rolled her eyes and looked at her counterpart, who snickered.

I feigned a shocked expression,”Are you saying we’re rude, backwoods hicks?  Perhaps you’d like to try your luck with other boyfriends”  I waved my hand at some of our peers, currently in an arm wrestling match over the hood of muscle car, surrounded by rudely encouraging onlookers.

For that I earned a punch in the arm before she tossed her hair and walked a bit more quickly to the passenger door of my car.  I caught up with her and spun her around, pressing her against the door and breathing in her ear.

“Besides.. ” lightly licking the edge of her ear,”… did I say anything about being a gentleman?”

Butchtastic First Birthday Contest entries : Natt Nightly

Natt Nightly is one of my favorite bloggers, a friend and fellow butch and a really great writer.  This is how he imagines us meeting.  Note:  this is the only story entry that did not assume the writer would have sex with me.  Kudos to Natt for not falling for the popular misconception that to meet me is to fuck me.

The day I met Kyle, it was raining… then again, is it ever not raining in Washington? (Except for when it’s snowing, but that’s a different story.) Suffice to say, I was not totally thrilled to be the one in charge of procuring coffee at 9 am on this wet, dreary Saturday.

See, rain brings out the freaks. I understand that no one wants to get soaked, but the psychedelic mishmash of colors, patterns, fabrics and general chaos that passes for rain gear is even worse in a place where people have to wear it regularly. Neon pink ponchos, glaring flannel, and knock-off Burberry rain boots make perfect sense when the weather looks like shit. Who’s going to be looking anyway?

So I have to admit that when I ducked into the coffee shop and saw a rain-spattered, black cowboy hat perched at a rakish angle on some dyke’s head, I didn’t even blink.  I just shrugged to myself and joined the line of bleary-eyed patrons waiting for their morning fix. I wouldn’t have given him a second thought except that the line wound past his seat, and, well… I’m nosey. He was sitting in front of a small laptop staring intently staring at the screen, flipping through images and chuckling quietly to himself. As the line crawled past him, I peered over his shoulder, fascinated despite myself. What could possibly be so amusing this early in the morning?

What I saw made my jaw drop. Was he really browsing graphic, dirty pictures in the non-sanctity of the coffee house. I was impressed. My kind of perv! Granted, I couldn’t totally see the screen, but even from my vantage point, the subject of the grainy and pixilated images seemed clear.

It was at that moment he leaned back to stretch and I got a better look at the image he’d just clicked on. I was so caught off guard that I laughed out loud, which grabbed his attention and, with an inquisitive eyebrow raised, he looked up at me.

“Can I help you?”

I flushed red and stammered, “Um… no, not really… sorry, I’m… I mean… is that vulva made out of LEGOS?”

A wide grin spread across his face. “Why yes, yes it is,” he pronounced. And then the smile went wicked. “You should see their crocheted cock collection. It’s quite impressive.”

That settled it. I needed to know this person.

“I can imagine it would be. Mind if I sit?” I asked, already halfway into the chair across from him. “I’m Natt, by the way.”

He inclined his head and touched the brim of his hat lightly. “Pleased to meet you, Natt. I’m Kyle. And call me crazy, but I get the feeling you and I are going to be great friends…”

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Half-Nekkid Thursday : beer holder

Another of the hundreds of photos taken by Roxy during our weekend in NYC.  This one illustrates a way to use a dick you may not have thought of:  beer holder.

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Enjoy the weekend folks.. I’m heading over the mountains to celebrate Thanksgiving with my wife’s family.  While I’m gone another of the Butchtastic First Birthday Contest entries will be published, this one by my good friend, Natt Nightly.  And no, it doesn’t involve us having sex (I realize *some* of you will be disappointed by that.)

Happy HNT everyone :-)

To see all the other HNT posts for the day, go to Views from the Back Row, from whence the HNT goodness has come.

Thankful…

I am thankful for my beautiful family, my two wonderful daughters and my gorgeous wife, who has been loving and supporting me for over 16 years.

I’m thankful for my beautiful girlfriend, who is so much more than a girlfriend, loving and inspiring me for over a year now.

I’m thankful for my friends, the geeks and the freaks, the kinksters and the elementary school parents, my neighbors and all the cool people who make this community such a great place to live.

I’m thankful for my job, allowing me to support my family and afford us some fun on top of survival.

I’m thankful for my community, quirky and creative, liberal and conservative, not small town, but not too big.  This is where I grew up and where I continue to grow and thrive.

I am thankful for my parents, my mother who isn’t always easy but loves her family fiercely, and my father, who taught me how a man could be strong and sensitive and loyal and charming.. and so much more.

I’m thankful for the women who have shared my bed and my heart, you’ve each taught me something and I’m eternally grateful for the precious time we shared.

I’m thankful for hot water in my shower and hot coffee in my cup.  I’m thankful for clean clothes and a dirty mind.

I’m thankful to the universe for seeing fit to bestow upon me a positive outlook, an optimistic heart and the ability to recognize opportunities when they present themselves.

I’m thankful for you, my readers who have kept this blog alive and vital for over a year now;  for the people who leave comments, who email me and let me know they appreciate my stories, my truth.

I’m thankful for the excellent friendships I have, the ones in the flesh and the ones that manifest as words and pictures on a screen.. they all entertain and teach and encourage me, and make life worth living.

Microfantasy Monday, week 55 : Symbols

When idea for this week’s  microfantasy came to me, I thought it was a short story, easily fitting into the Microfantasy Monday parameters.  I was mistaken, it’s much longer than this, so I’ve given you the beginning to ponder until I can finish the whole.

Thanks as always to Ang, the Sweltering Celt, bringer of weekly Microfantasy Monday goodness.  The theme this week is Symbols.

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I flew into the small regional airport with a bag over my shoulder, a piece of paper clutched in my hand and a smile on my face.   The piece of paper contained instructions.  They were very simple, to the point and entirely wordless.

I stepped out of the plane and looked at the paper, not that I didn’t have it memorized already.   The picture of a car, then a plus sign followed by a dollar sign indicated I was to take a taxi to my destination.   At the bottom of the sheet, another row of pictures and symbols showed a door with a bush next to it, an arrow pointing to a clothed stick figure, followed by a minus sign and a drawing showing articles of clothing.  I was to strip down outside before entering the cottage.  Another arrow pointed to a stack of items to one side of the door.  I was to take the time to fold my clothing before going inside.

I got into the taxi and gave the address to the driver.   I thought about the next instruction and felt the heat rising in my face.  She wasn’t allowing me a gradual descent into obedience, she was going to test me from the start.  I paid the taxi driver and walked toward the door slowly, hoping he’d drive away quickly.   Putting my bag down, I took a deep breath and a quick glance around.  View of the front door was only partially obscured by bushes.   I realized with a start that I had better get on with it, she was sure to have heard the taxi come and go and was probably growing more impatient with each second.   Blushing furiously, I pulled my clothing off quickly, folded it carefully and piled it on my bag.  Then I tried the door.  For a second, the stiffness of the doorknob made my heart stop, but then it turned and I slipped inside quickly.

On the floor, just inside the door, was another piece of paper.   On it, a drawing of a table with a circle and a line with a small loop at the end followed by a plus sign and the circle-arrow symbol of masculinity.   I walked to the small table not far from the front door and picked up the collar.  My collar.  This collar made me Her boy, and it wasn’t merely a symbol of Her ownership of me, putting it on would transform me.   I sighed with contentment as I fastened it around my neck.  I then picked up the leash and clipped it onto the collar.  The next set of instructions was there on the table.  It showed a stick figure on hands and knees with a collar, leash in mouth.   The arrow following it pointed to another door, upon which she’d drawn a crown.

I got down on the floor and crawled down the hallway, in the direction I presumed would lead to the master bedroom and Her.

Reviewing the Purple Rain Wand from Babeland

I’ve become a fan of the rigid insertable.  No, I’m not giving up my realistic, feels-like-it’s-real dicks, but sometimes I just need to slide it in and get it done.  I love my glass dildo (a gift from Roxy), it’s one of my favorite go-to tools for quick orgasm.   Stainless steel, stone and wood items have also caught my eye.  And now I have something in purple acrylic, the Purple Rain Wand from Babeland.  It’s just as unyieldingly stiff as my glass dildo, but at 10 inches, is a whole lot longer.

Ohhhh yeah, plenty long.  When I need to fuck myself hard and long and deep, this is a good choice.  If I want precision, I’m gonna stay with the glass.

I enjoyed the length of the PRW because it was easy to hold on to and work the penetration, it has more of a  ’handle’ than my favorite glass dildo, which I can practically lose inside me most of the time.  However, Purple Rain doesn’t hit me the right way, the curve is too slight and the length tends to carry the tip past my G-spot.  That means my rosy-colored glass dildo is still reigning queen of the G-spot stimulators in my arsenal.  Keep that in mind when you’re looking at rigid toys, thinking about how fingers curve to find your G-spot and look for similar curves.   We’re all built differently inside, though, so the slighter curve of the Purple Rain may be perfect for you or your partner.  Definitely check this out if you want deep, rigid penetration.

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the Purple Rain Wand (bottom)

There is one negative thing with regard to packaging.  The Purple Rain Wand ships with its own drawstring bag, usually a nice addition, right?  Not this one.  I’m not sure what petroleum based product it’s made of, but it smells like nasty, rotten fish with halitosis.   It’s also pretty large, which would be cool and useful if it wasn’t so nasty.  I actually waited a while before reviewing the PRW because the smell of that bag turned me off so much.  My recommendation?  If you purchase this purple penetrator, ditch the bag right away to prevent unwanted sexual anti-stimulation.   And I am going to pass that critique on to Babeland, maybe they can stop shipping it that way.

There is something I haven’t tried with the Purple Rain yet and that’s anal insertion.  The relatively narrow tapered head and generally narrow girth gives me hope that this one might go both ways for me.

Potential Health risk information:  Amber has brought to my attention that there are potentially health risks associated with acrylic sex toys.  She knows through the body modification community that acrylic plugs are not recommended.  Here is an article discussing the relative safety of materials used in piercing jewelry as well as a Material Data Safety Sheet of Plexiglas Acrylic.  Keep in mind that items used in body modification will be in contact with your body 24/7, whereas a dildo or other penetration toy will have give you less exposure.  I urge you to read this and other information on the subject and make your decision.

Purple Rain Wand details:

  • material: made of purple acrylic, sterilizable, phthalate-free
  • Size: 10” x 1-7/8”
  • Babeland price: $30
Purple Rain Wand with complementary stinky bag

Purple Rain Wand with complementary stinky bag

Butchtastic Sex Toy Rating:  3 boots

Doesn’t knock my socks off, but I’m inclined to keep it around for a while.

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Disclaimer:  I don’t receive payment for reviewing Babeland products, but I do get to keep everything I review.  I’m under no pressure to provide positive reviews and I promise to give you the truth about each product as I see it.

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Artfully Re-Rendered

Under the influence of Roxy, I’ve learned to be comfortable, even happy, with a camera lens pointed at me.  She’s taught me to look at myself and see what she sees — beauty, strength, humor, joy.   You’ve seen the product of her work over and over again here and on her blog.

Recently a twitter friend, Susan Fox, asked if she could use one of those pictures as the model for her art.  I was thrilled and intrigued.  I went over to look at her twitpics to see examples of her work.. well, goll darn it, she’s a real sho-nuff artist.   So I said, yes, please, take any picture I’ve published and have your way with it.

She chose the picture I’m currently using as my Twitter avatar and this is the result of her artistic endeavors:

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Pretty cool, huh?  I’m looking at options for getting a copy printed cuz I think it’s that cool.

Here’s some info on the artist, and the technique she used:

  • Artist: Susan Fox
  • Age: 21
  • Time doing art: From the age of three, but in true practice, from 11 I took art classes and honed my skills.
  • Degree in Fine Arts from the Baum School of Art in Allentown, PA, with a focus in acrylics.
  • Art types: I enjoy doing fantasy art mostly, but I am working on perfecting painting people. I work on commission, or as inspiration hits me.
  • Tools of my trade: Acrylics, oil, and Photoshop CS3 with my handy Wacom Tablet.
  • If you’d like a commission of your own, email me at susan.alyssa.fox@gmail.com , or you can find me on twitter as @SusanFox
  • Art was done with acrylic paint in a criss-cross like pattern for texture. I then scanned it and did some work in photoshop to finalize it :)

Here’s the original photo, taken by Roxy after the Hypergender Burlesque show, QTopia, in New York City on 11/7/2009.

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Half-Nekkid Thursday : spank

Another picture from my weekend in New York City with Roxy.  There’s something about the morning light on skin that transforms a body into something more sculptural.

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This is an action shot, taken as I rolled her over on her side to spank her sweet ass.  I love this picture because it reminds me of how we are together:  playful, happy, naked.. I can see her challenging smile in my minds eye, hear her laughing protest, remember spanking her until she said ‘ow ow’ then massaging it in and following with kisses.

Thank you, love, for all the sweet, wonderful memories.. can’t wait to make more.

Happy HNT everyone :-)

To see all the other HNT posts for the day, go to Views from the Back Row, from whence the HNT goodness has come.

Forever…

Forever.. it sounds nice, doesn’t it?  It’s the kind of promise we want to make to the ones we love.  It’s the kind of promise we make with shining eyes and optimistic hearts.

Forever is a beautiful idea, a wonderful goal, but it’s not a magic spell.  Simply saying the word doesn’t make the relationship or the happiness last until the end of time.  Forever is like an exotic plant, it can put up with some neglect, but not for too long.  Forever won’t wait around forever.

I know about the challenge of Forever first-hand.  A lot of years ago, I promised forever to someone and I believed it.  She believed it.  We both were very sincere and sure of our love.  Unfortunately we had no idea how to make forever happen.  We were young and full of optimism and had no idea what life had in store for us.   By the end of our relationship, 10 years later, not only was the Forever we’d promised each other a mere shadow of itself, we’d forgotten most of the reasons we fell in love in the first place.  I hardly recognized myself anymore and she seemed to be someone else as well.  I really had believed in Forever — my parents married young and are still happily married.  I let that belief guide me into being a shadow of myself.  I gave up most of me in order to keep that relationship going, to keep her happy, to keep up appearances.  Most of our friends believed we were the super couple, maybe she believed it as well, but I knew we were rotten on the inside, hollow and empty of meaning.

After that spectacular failure, I was really anti-relationship, suspicious of any kind of absolute — not just ‘forever’, but ‘everything’, ‘always’, ‘never’.  That feeling held sway into the beginning of my next relationship, the one I’m still 16 years later.  My wife and I made the decision to become exclusive partners, to concentrate our energy on our relationship and on achieving our shared goals.  We loved each other deeply but our relationship histories weighed heavily on our minds and we agreed that Forever wasn’t something we could rationally promise.  To this day, we don’t promise forever, we promise to keep working at our relationship, to not give up on each other.   And for us, that’s what works.  There have been a few times throughout the last 16 years when that promise was put to the test, but every time we came back together and did the work necessary to stay together.  And not just together, but happy and successful as a couple.

With all that preamble, the astute reader may now have a furrowed brow.. haven’t I been using that word around here lately?  Have I not liberally sprinkled that into comments and twitter conversations with regard to Roxy?  Have I suddenly been sprinkled with optimistic fairy dust?   Have I forgotten the lessons of broken relationships past?  No, I haven’t forgotten, instead I’ve learned a lot and I think I understand a lot more about Forever now.

We can’t utter ‘Forever’ and have that be the end of it.  We can’t even stand in front of witnesses and utter a lot of words meaning Forever like some magic spell that will seal our pact to the end of our lives, and have that promise hold through the strength of those words alone.  Forever takes care and feeding.  Forever needs attention and hard work every year, every month, every day.  Forever will forgive some shortcomings but take it for granted for too long and it will abandon you like a good-time friend once the money runs out.

I have no problem promising forever to my wife at this point, I have faith in our ability to work through our difficulties and maintain the quality of relationship we’ve enjoyed over the years. Likewise, when I promise forever to Roxy, I’m promising to work with her on this relationship as long as it has meaning for us.  I understand that Forever doesn’t come on a silver platter, fully prepared and ready to enjoy.   When I think of Forever now, I understand that my wife and I had it right.. we shouldn’t be making promises about goal, rather we should be making promises about the journey.   We can promise each other a journey until we no longer want to walk the same path together.  We can promise to help each other during the steep, rocky portions of the path and celebrate together when we reached the easy, pleasant sections.

I’ve come to understand that Forever doesn’t just happen, it has to be earned.  And not only that, I don’t have an unlimited supply of Forever because nurturing and tending serious relationships takes time and energy and I have a limited supply of both.  That realization has been very humbling.  I have a huge capacity to love multiple people, but a very finite ability to tend multiple committed relationships.

So, yes, I’ve come to a new understanding with Forever.  I believe it is possible to make lifelong commitments but saying the words, making the promise, is not nearly enough.  It takes hard work, patience, communication and dedication, and more than a little optimism and hope.  But I don’t mind taking those steps every day, because I believe the journey is worth the effort.