When I was approached by TickleKitty to review this book, I was skeptical. From the book’s title, to the chapter headings to the cover art, Tickle My Tush hit me like a giggly gaggle of sorority girls in a sex toy shop on a dare. So, before I said yes to the review, I checked out Dr. Sadie Allison (America’s Pleasure Coach) online and looked at some of the promo information on the book. The whole thing was so hetero-centric that I emailed back to say that I wasn’t sure I was the right person for the job, that given the queer and gender variant slant of my blog — and most of my readers — I wasn’t sure about the book’s appeal. The response was that they wanted me to check it out, that they wanted to hear what a queerly gendered person thought about the book.
And now I’ll tell you. It is chock-full of puns, an ass-load, in fact, of tongue-in-cheeks, cutesy terms and phrases and inside jokes. So many of them that they do get a bit too much at times, but I think the purpose of them is to use that humor to loosen people up, so to speak, to lower their guard in that wonderful way humor has, so they can approach a topic that is really taboo and scary for some — butt sex. This is not just a book about penetration, it’s a book about preparation for potential penetration.
Each chapter contains lists of cleverly named techniques to illustrate the points of the chapter, as well as checklists to help readers understand what they want out of anal sex and how to communicate to their partners about those desires, as well as the terms to use in that communication. As Dr. Allison graphically and repeatedly explains, there’s a lot more to butt sex than just pokin’ and pumpin’. Detailed descriptions of how to use fingers, tongues, mouth and other body parts get the imagination going.
For those of us of non-hetero sexuality and non-binary gender, a downside is that the illustrations and advice are very heavily heterosexual. However, if you can see past that, you’ll find plenty that will be useful no matter what your lover’s gender or physical layout might be.
There is a lot of emphasis on foreplay, on pre-heating, getting lubed, safety and cleanliness, communicating and taking your time — great advice for sexual encounters no matter what kind of bodies and genders are involved. There is a great discussion on points of stimulus and how they differ for people with male vs female sex organs — the G-spot and the He-spot get plenty of attention with diagrams and suggestions for techniques to use. I found that potentially useful, being a person who is interested in queer sex with people born with male bits.
There is a full chapter on sex toys, with a run down of various styles and the pluses and minuses of each, with a discussion on safety and smart shopping — how to check for quality products, which lubes to use based on the material your toys are made of (water based is the safest), etc.
Another chapter talks about strap-on sex, including information on different strap-on harness styles and some suggested positions for pegging. The final chapter is about positioning for anal penetration of the female partner. Chapter 2 contains a FAQ of questions most likely to be asked by those curious but potentially a bit leery about butt sex, and there is also a brief FAQ at the end of the book if, somehow, all your questions have not been answered by then.
I appreciated the frank way Dr. Allison presents the information, not shying away from ‘organics’ or gas or any of the other potentially ‘icky’ issues people may have about anal sex. That matter of fact approach goes a long way in balancing the almost cloying sweetness layered on by pages of puns. This book is full of facts, advice, options, and encouragement, which makes it not just a great resource for people who are looking to get busy in the booty, but also for those of us experienced with back door hotness.
I’m feeling mixed about this book, because the material is great but the approach is a bit too cutesy, and the complete heterosexual bias and lack of mention of any other sexual preference (besides reassuring readers that anal sex isn’t gay unless you’re already gay. That said, I don’t feel queer people are dissed in this book, just not really spoken to as a potential audience).
For all these reasons, I’m giving “Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty” 3 boots.. and a thanks to TickleKitty for sending it to me for review. You can get it for under $15 on TickleKitty’s website and possibly other places, and I recommend it for people who would like to explore anal play — You’ll fair better with this book than by watching porn, that’s for sure.
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