In the wake of recent spiteful comments and crap flung from troll monkeys, I feel compelled to communicate the guidelines I follow when determining whether to approve a comment, or not.
The first thing you should know is that blogs belong to the blogger. Â Some bloggers don’t allow comments at all, they don’t care to hear from the masses, washed or unwashed. Â Some bloggers keep their posts under lock and key, allowing only a select few readers to have the password. Â For most bloggers, their blog is a work of passion, something they do for fun. Â Most of us aren’t making money through blogging. Â These are not public spaces, the first amendment does not apply. Â If I don’t like something you’re saying, I can prevent you from saying it. Â I pay the bills here, I get to call the tune. Â That said, I really, really love getting comments, most of the time.
Now, a little history on my experience with comments on this blog. Â I went from open Â to moderated comments because someone who isn’t a fan, and who enjoys being hurtful, left comments attacking my loved ones by name. Â This was after a series of very critical, nasty and hurtful comments left by this person. Â Naming names went over the edge and I realized that I couldn’t trust everyone to play fair anymore, so I turned on comment moderation.
I have a few regular readers who are anti-fans, who don’t approve of what I do or how I do it, though they can’t seem to help coming back to read about it day after day. Â They will occasionally leave an inflammatory, caustic comment with the goal of hurting my feelings, pissing me off and/or getting me riled up. Â I don’t think that furthers any sort of discussion, so I don’t approve them. Â I’ve gotten comments from people who disagree with me, who take issue with my lifestyle and choices and who manage to do so in an intelligent and respectful manner. Â When disagreement is communicated in a respectful manner, I’ll publish the comment even if I don’t agree with it. Â So it’s not necessary to give me virtual blowjobs and comment in a sycophantic manner to get your words published (regardless of what some of my anti-fans say). Â You just need to be respectful.. bonus points awarded for a well written, intelligent argument.
So here are my guidelines, in case you care:
Comments will be rejected if …
1) they attack my loved ones with no further purpose but to hurt; that kind of personal attacks are not valid comments and have no place on this blog
2) attack me in a non constructive, irresponsible manner with no further purpose but to hurt me and make the commenter feel superior; this is my blog, not yours, serve your ego somewhere else
3) they are spam…
Comments will be approved if …
1) they provide contrary opinions in a respectful manner.
2) they tell me how wonderful I am
3) they aren’t spam …
Questions, comments? Â Before I close this, I’d like to thank my regular readers, whether they comment or not, I can see you in my stats and I know most of you aren’t assholes. Â Thanks 🙂
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